![]() ![]() If they don’t seem interested, consider briefing them on the science behind positive parenting. Whether they sign up for the 7-Step Parenting Success System® online training program, attend our FREE online webinar, or choose a different online source, an overview will give them insight into your parenting world and tactics. If they seem interested, encourage them to study positive parenting directly. Just as it helps to have a spouse on board with parenting strategies, it is equally helpful to have grandparents aware of our daily and long-term parenting plans, especially when they spend a lot of time with their grandkids or act as full-time/part-time caregivers. I’ve noticed we’ve been contradicting one another with discipline techniques, and I believe it will be beneficial to everyone if we share the same strategies.” “Hey Mom and Dad, while you’re here (or while we’re on the phone/FaceTime), I would love to talk to you about some parenting strategies I’ve been using. It helps to find a quiet time to talk about all of this–when we aren’t frazzled by our kids or daily activities.Ĭonsider beginning the discussion with a segue like: Encourage Grandparents to Study Positive Parentingĭepending on your relationship with your parents or in-laws, a sit-down or phone discussion can be intimidating. They may not recognize that your goal is to raise kids that are independently motivated by their own choices–and that you disagree that resorting to power struggles or relying on traditional forms of punishment, like spanking, will encourage better behavior. They just see a child unwilling to put on another layer and your lack of an ultimatum. Maybe your parents or in-laws don’t realize you’ve intentionally given your eight-year-old the choice to wear a coat on a 40-degree day or face the natural consequence of being chilly at the bus stop. But part of that comes from misunderstanding it. Grandparents might consider positive parenting at odds with the way they were raised (or the way they raised us). That’s why having a genuine conversation with grandparents about our parenting strategies is crucial. People in any relationship risk miscommunication when they don’t get to the heart of their intentions. ![]() ![]() When grandparents’ criticism and meddling are doing more harm than good, here are six ways to frame a productive discussion: 1. These conversations will help everyone argue less and enjoy each other’s company more! The amazing news is that there are ways to positively communicate the different approaches you and your child’s grandparents have towards parenting. Unfortunately, telling them as much is a sticky situation. Having already raised a child or more themselves, their opinions are nothing to belittle.īut, just because our parents and in-laws care about their grandkids and want to remain involved in our lives does not mean they have the right to interfere with the way we raise our children. Grandparents generally have legitimate, hard-earned experiences they want to share with us. The reality is, parents don’t cease to be parents when their kids grow up: not least when they graduate to grandparents. ![]() Parenting is hard enough, let alone when our parents–now grandparents–offer unsolicited advice. “I would have washed your mouth out with soap,” your mother’s voice warns when your son talks back to you. “That technology is rotting her brain,” your father urges while your daughter is enjoying her one-hour-a-day screen time. When Grandparents Interfere With Positive Parenting ![]()
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